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Wednesday, July 19, 2017

I Always Want to Remember 2017: Parts 5, 6, & 7.

Some solid life advice for you: If you're having a bad day/week/month, or you feel like things aren't going the best for you, or you feel like life has been just kind of blah lately, pull out your phone and look through your pictures. Chances are, there's a few-hundred tiny moments you're forgetting about because they didn't seem like a big deal at the time. 

Here are mine! I...

Bought this magical mermaid sweat-shirt, which I wear at least a few times a week, because even mermaids get cold.  

Introduced Jack to fried okra and sweet tea.

Flew to Oklahoma to help my childhood best friend pick out a wedding dress.

Celebrated my second mother's day as this little munchkin's mom. 

Finished S-Town...SO GOOD.

Took Jack on his first big vacation and turned him into a full-on beach baby. 

Celebrated my little brother's 21st birthday, which is odd considering I SWEAR he's still only ten years old. Dear time, what the heck are you doing?!

Took Jack to a splash pad and he LOVED it. Also had a big mom fail when I didn't realize there was chlorine in the water and I didn't wash his eyes out. This resulted in me pulling over on the side of the road and dumping a bottle of water in his eyes, which I'm pretty sure made him forget about all of the fun he just had. You win some, you lose some. 

Had lots of pool dates with my main squeeze. 

Took Jack to the zoo for the first time! 

Got real fancy for a date with Sam and learned that the true test of friendship is if someone will cut you out of your clothes or not. If you watched my Instagram story the next day, you know what I'm talking about. If not...well, sorry.

Bought Jack a tee-ball set and learned that he is VERY concerned with making sure the ball stays right there while he snuggles the bat. 

Took Jack for ice cream for the first time. It was adorable, and also incredibly messy.

Found my new favorite dress and realized Jack has learned how to smile for the camera.

Was sneak-attacked by this vicious lap dog who thinks he weighs about five pounds. My parents got him after I moved out, but he still claims me as his. 

Found Gainesville's BEST thrift store and spent the day thrifting and making Sam take my picture in the parking lot, because that's what real friends do. 

Took a road trip with my little brother and watched Jack decide he likes him more than he likes me. Also, got a billion messages from you guys asking if this was my secret boyfriend. Pro-tip: If you DO happen to have a secret boyfriend, I'm guessing it's probably not the best idea to post his picture on instagram. Just a thought. 

Went road trip supply shopping with Sam and ended up buying all the clothes instead. 

Dyed my hair pink.

Took off to Virginia Beach on the best road trip ever...more of that coming at you this week. 

See how full those tiny moments can make your life?

What do you always want to remember from the last few months?

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Monday, July 17, 2017

It's Worth the Hassle.

I'm back from the best road trip ever, and I can't wait to write all about it and post entirely too many pictures. But today, I just wanted to pop in with a little peptalk about what this trip taught me. 

It would have been easier to not go. It would have been easier to not find childcare and not drive all of the miles and spend all of the money. I'd be better rested today had I stayed home. Maybe I'd be over this sore throat that's been hanging around for three weeks. It would have been easier to say, "Let's try for next year!" But then the last five days wouldn't have happened, and I wouldn't have woken up today feeling so full of life. 

Yeah, I'm exhausted, but I also had one of the most adventurous weeks of my life with one of my best friends. We made a thousand memories that I know we'll re-tell over and over and laugh about for years to come. And when I think about living a full life, that's what I think about. Not being well-rested and having lots of money saved and being ahead on my to-do list, but having an overflow of laughter-inducing memories with friends, adventures worth dreaming about, making slightly questionable decisions that turn into the best stories. 

There's a lot of focus on self-care lately, the kind where you take bubble baths and lounge around in your PJs watching Netflix. And yes, that's so important. But honestly, I think this is another kind of self-care. Getting out and being adventurous and reminding yourself that you are alive, that you've got a life to live and fill with stories and memories and adventures. 

So if you've been thinking about doing something lately-whether it's going on a road trip or starting a new business venture or putting yourself out there in a new way-and are wondering if it's worth all the extra hassle, maybe it is. Maybe you'll have the best week of your life. Maybe all those late nights getting ready to launch your new business will be worth it. Maybe that first date will turn into something wonderful. Maybe that vacation will end up being just what you need. 

It will always be easier not to. But easy and amazing aren't the same things. 

And, after all, you'll never know if you don't just go for it. 

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Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Ten Ways I'm Trying to Become a Better Person.

I am 100% of the belief that you can become a better person. Just like you can become a better writer, or a better tennis player, or a better cook. If something is important to you, you'll put the effort in, and being a good human is important to me. Here are some ways I'm trying to get better at it. 

1. I'm trying to let little things bother me less. The other day, I burnt a piece of chicken I was cooking and then knocked over a glass of water. I said, out loud to myself, "What a crappy night." And then actually laughed at myself, because, seriously? If I'm going to be the kind of person who lets some spilled water ruin their night, I'm going to have a pretty miserable existence. So none of that! 

2. Saying less of "here I am" and more of "there you are!" For as long as I can remember, my mom has said there are two types of people: People who walk in a room and say HERE I AM! And people who walk in a room and say, "There you are!" I want to be the second person. 

3. Eating better and working out. Plain and simple, this is making me a better person physically. It's important!

4. Making space for people. When I first started doing the Yoga with Adriene videos, she would always say "The goal here is to create space" and it would drive me crazy. Because there's only so much space, it already exists, and I cannot make more. What kind of hippie nonsense is this? But the more I did it, the more I got it, and the more I see how it translates over to real life. 

You only have so much space in your life, but you get to move it around and manipulate it to fit where you want it and choose who gets to take it up. And I want to choose to create space for the people who matter. I want to create space for my friends to call me if they're having a bad day. Space for people to be able to ask for my help. Space for canceled plans in order for me to be there for my people. 

5. Consciously choosing kindness. I consider myself to be a pretty kind person. And yes, it would be awesome if I was always automatically kind without even thinking about it, but that's not always the case. So I'm working on thinking about it. Actually waking up and deciding to be kind. Taking a breath in the heat of a frustrating moment and actively choosing kindness. 

6. Less judging. Period. This year has taught me that very, very few things are black and white. I have no idea what someone is going through, or where they're coming from, so my judgment has no place here. When I feel judgey in a situation, I'm trying to notice it and replace that with love. 

7. Trying, even in the seemingly impossible situations. Maybe a few dollars isn't going to change a homeless person's life around. Maybe calling your senator isn't going to change their mind. Maybe reaching out isn't going to mend that relationship. Maybe offering your support isn't going to break someone's addiction. But I, for one, want to be able to say I always tried, no matter how hopeless a situation seemed. 

8. Listening. How often do we say, "how's it going?" in passing without really caring about the response? Or how often are we in a conversation, just nodding but also scrolling through our phones? I'm working on becoming a better listener instead. 

9. Responding to my texts and emails. Goodness gracious, I am so bad at this. Some of it's due to getting anxious over things, but some of it is due to pure laziness/procrastination. I'm working on responding to things in a much timelier matter, even if my response is just, "I'll have to get back to you."

10. Learning the best ways to love my people. We all feel most loved in different ways. I have a friend who's whole month is made by sending her a 99 cent greeting card saying hi, and one friend who feels appreciated when someone acknowledges her hard work. I have a friend who feels loved by phone calls. Another friend hates talking on the phone, but loves funny texts full of inappropriate memes. I'm working on taking the time to learn these little things so I can show love better. 

How are you trying to become a better person?
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Monday, July 10, 2017

3 Things You Need to Know About.

1. This album. It was released on the day I took a road trip last week and I listened to it approximately 8 times on the drive, and have been listening to it ever since. It's fantastic. 

2. This creamer. I have FINALLY found a creamer (that I don't have to make myself, because, lazy) that actually tastes like creamer. I find that with a lot of "healthier" creamer options, they're really thin, or they seperate, or don't mix in well so things are just floating in your coffee (ew). But this one is creamy and mixes right in and I don't even think about how good that sugary creamer would be when I'm drinking it. So, that's a win. 

3. Tomorrow is Prime Day. Now, this is how I remember Prime Day going in previous years: 

 But it's supposedly going to be better this year. Just in case, if you're not a Prime member, go ahead and sign up for a 30 day free trial so you can get any good deals. 

Obviously, I have a list of (very unnecessary) things you should totally buy if they happen to be on prime sale. 

My favorite flamingo straws, obviously. 

These oversized moon & star sunglasses that make you look like a super mysterious gypsy. I have these and they are giant and amazing. 

This good vibes only hat. I also have this and have worn it approximately every other day this summer. 

My favorite sunglasses that I get SO many compliments on but only paid $12 for. 

This beach bag that I'm probably definitely about to buy for myself because HELLO SEQUINED FLAMINGO. 

This dress. Don't even need to tell you why.

Ditto to this pillow.

Okay, so we've learned my flamingo obsession is still alive and well. Glad we covered that. 

Happy Monday! May it be way better than you're expecting.
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Friday, June 30, 2017

A Pep Talk for Your July.

What was your favorite part of summer when you were younger and summers actually meant something different? The relaxing? The go-go-going? Having friends over? Neighborhood BBQs? Whatever your answer, make time for that in July. 

Sometimes (okay, a lot of the time) months come and go and life rushes by. But every now and then, you can see a month coming, stop, look it in the face, and say, hey, I'm gonna have a really freaking good month. 

So do that this month!  Decide to have a good month. Decide to do that thing you've really been wanting to do or go that place you've really been wanting to go. Decide to give up sleep for travel, or decide to say no to things so you can get more sleep. Decide to cherish every second of snuggles with your newborn baby or to go visit your out of town friends. Decide to spend every free moment you have soaking up the sunshine or decide to finally write that book. Decide to go on a road trip or to finally organize your closet. Decide to cut those toxic people out of your life or decide to start taking care of your body. Decide to live July to the absolute fullest in a way that will make you the happiest. 

You know what would make next month the greatest for you. So do it. 

Decide that July is going to be a good, good month. 

That's what I'm going to do. 

What would make July the best month for you? 

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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

What June Taught Me.

Make your own freaking sunshine. I wish I meant this literally, because it's still raining every single day here, but alas, I mean it figuratively. Sometimes, if you're having a bad day/week/month you can just wait on circumstances to change, or you can count on someone else to make you happy. And sometimes, you can make your own freaking happiness. 

Having a bad day? Watch your favorite movie. Go swimming. Deep clean your house, if that's what relaxes you (and then come over here because I want some of that). Ignore the dishes piling up and go out with a friend. This month taught me that sometimes, I'm the only thing that I can control in a situation. So if I'm having a bad week and I don't do anything about it, well, I can really only blame myself. 

Your people are so important. Take care of them. Friendships are so precious, and true friendships are really rare. So take care of them. Check in on your people. Have FaceTime dates. Go out for dinner, or invite them over. When you're overwhelmed, sometimes friendships can be the first thing to go because it feels like so much effort when you feel like you're just barely surviving yourself. 1) It's worth it, and 2) It doesn't have to be so much effort. Sure, it's fun to go out for shopping and coffee and happy hour. But real friendship also sometimes looks like sending a text and saying, I'm not cleaning my house for you, but I'm gonna eat dinner and watch this movie if you wanna join me. 

Friendships look different in each season of life, but you can always take care of them. 

you need these sunglasses. they're $11 and seem way nicer than they are! 

It's the little things. If you didn't see my Instagram story, I'll give you an abbreviated version: I tried to go to church on Sunday and put Jack in the nursery, and it did not go well. At all. On the way home, I really wanted a cold brew coffee. So I drove the opposite direction from my house, navigated the worst parking lot ever, sat in a forever long drive-thru, and got cold brew coffee. And it was absolutely worth it. $3 and some horrid traffic later, and my mood was better. I may not get to go to church, but I can treat myself with iced coffee and go to the pool. Sometimes the big things get decided for you, so take advantage of the little things and make yourself happy. 

What did this month teach you?
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Monday, June 26, 2017

Catching Up.

Lots of little things that aren't necessarily worthy of their own blog posts happen all the time. Sometimes, enough of these happen that I just sit down with a hot cup of coffee (okay, I'm on my second as we speak. To be honest, not too far from my third) and tell you about all of them and call it a day. We have arrived at such a day, my friends. 

Summer is here, but it's been raining for approximately 234,329,439 days now. As someone who takes their toddler to the pool almost every day, this is kind of a bummer. 

Sometimes I actually think about the things we have today and it blows my mind. Like, I have a phone that, if I'm missing a friend, I can simply press a button and see their face in real time. That is amazing. My best friend lives in Georgia and a few nights ago I facetimed her while she was shopping for her new house. We're in totally different states, but able to pick out home decor in Target together. Technology is the best. 

Last week there was a fancy event that I went to with my friend Sam. We got ready together and took a million and four (I'm totally not exaggerating numbers today, can you tell?) pictures and it was so much fun. It really reminded me that it's so nice to make a big effort and celebrate every now and then. I'm all about take-out and Netflix on the weekends, but it's nice to go all out every now and then. 

Chris was MIA (working, always) for the first part of the night and other people were taking couples pictures, so I made it work with a date of my own.

To be honest, this is me anytime I'm around any dog ever, so it works. 

Jack is a night owl. I can no longer sleep past six (why?) so this is posing problems. And by problems, I mean I'm drinking entirely too much coffee and everyone I run into asks, "Are you okay? Are you sick?" No, Janet, just tired. Thanks for letting me know I look ill, though! Bright side, though, he sleeps in late. So I have a few hours in the morning to get work done before he wakes up. Which is maybe worth the caffeine jitters and sick-eyes comments. Jury is still out. 

That's all me and my tired/sick eyes have got today. Happy Monday! Hope it's the best. 

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