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Thursday, May 30, 2013

susie & sally.

We live in a time where it's super easy to talk about people.
I think a lot of that has to do what we're constantly exposed to.  Stand in line at the grocery store for 30 seconds, and you pretty much have a list of negative qualities of every current celebrity right in front of you.  The news, the internet, people in general. . .all eager to spill juicy details of how someone has screwed up their life.  We're constantly exposed to these types of stories, and have even learned to be attracted to these details.
And really, how long can that go on before it starts making its way into your day to day life?

People are going to hurt you.  Be nasty to you.  Lie and say mean things.
And we live in a time where its just so easy to retaliate with some of our own ammo.
Hop on twitter and deliver your judgement on someone's character in 140 letters or less.
And since you didn't really say anything, you feel satisfaction without having to have confrontation.
[Side note: don't be a bully.  And if you just can't help but to retaliate, say your piece to someone's face, not online where everyone can see and add in on.  That's being cowardly and rude.  Stop it.]

Here's a thought:

What Susie says of Sally says more of Susie that of Sally.

In other words, what you say about someone else says more about you than it says about whoever you're talking about.

If we all honestly kept that in our mind when we spoke, we would all be a heck of a lot happier.

And really, do you want to be perceived as a crazy, frantic, mean, vindictive person?  No?  Good, then we're on the same page.  So I'll go ahead and give you a tiny bit of advice here.
There is a very fine line between talking about someone and being mean, vindictive, and--let's just say it--crazy.  And most of us don't even realize when we cross it.  In fact, we're usually miles from the line before we even think we may have gone too far.

I wrote a post a few months ago on how important your words are for the sake of other's.
But your words are also important for the sake of yourself.

Be careful what you say, because what better judgement could people make on you than a judgement based on the things coming out of your own mouth?

Do you want to be known as a loving person?
Speak in love.
Do you want to be known as a kind person?
Speak kindly about others.
Speak the way you want others to perceive you as. 
And remember that the words you speak say way more about you than they do about whatever you are talking about.


  1. This is so great. I've been thinking about this a lot lately and loved the way you put this out there. Thanks!

  2. I agree. I follow Suze Orman's financial philosophy for everything in life, including what I say:

    Is it kind?
    Is it necessary?
    Is it true?

  3. AMEN! I have been so bothered recently by the ridiculously hateful things I have seen and heard recently. I wish I could make everybody read this post.

  4. I hate it when people gripe on Twitter. I like funny posts or interesting updates, but when people go on rants it bothers me. You are so right about this!

  5. this is one of those posts that i feel like you've been following me around all week? in a weird way? spying maybe? have you???

    i saw this on pinterest and stared at it for a good five minutes. are words are heavy. heavier than we can carry at times i think. so we have to be...well, nice. thanks for this love bug

  6. What truth! "Speak the way you want others to perceive you as." You should join the #loveyourselflinkup with other writers and bloggers next week (like Anne the Adventurer, Thoughts by Natalie, Fox & Hazel) ! i feel like you could bring such wisdom! xo, Lauren

  7. Wow, very nice post Chelsea! Nicely written and expressed.
    It is so true that we are in a world surrounded by negativity. Nowadays, it seems so easy to say something hurtful to someone without having to be courageous in saying it out loud face to face. And some people aren't always conscious of the impact that words may have on others. But sometimes, even too often I would say, words actually shape someone's life. Too many young people start having confidence issues, depression, etc. at a young age because of bullying or anything else they may witness.
    Anyhow, I could talk about this on and on... I think it's a very sensitive and important subject, and some people need to hear or read this more often.
    I just completely agree and support what you wrote here and in your older post "Words".
    Thanks for putting it out there Chelsea!

  8. Love this! There's already so much negativity in the world, why add to it? It's much better to be nice :)


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