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Tuesday, March 19, 2019

Fill That Cup!


The biggest thing I have been learning (so far!) in 2019 is about filling my cup. There are things in life that fill your cup and there are things that don't. There are people who fill your cup and there are people who don't. When you put it that way, it should be easy, right? But alas, this is the real world, where we have very real obligations and responsibilities. 

We can't just Marie Kondo away our jobs and responsibilities and mortgages (this doesn't bring me joy, BYE), so it's super important to be intentional about filling your cup. 

A list of things that have filled my cup lately: 

The library 

New bedding 

Time in the sunshine

Spending time with friends

Reading 

Audiobooks

Brainstorming fun projects 

Thrifting

Candles 

Face masks 

Podcasts 

Beach days

Are all of these things paying my bills? No. Are they all technically productive? Nope. Are they making me a happier version of myself? YES. And that's just so important. 

I might know next to nothing about your life, but I bet if I guessed that a good portion of it was full of doing things for other people and responsibilities that were draining, I'd be right. So take things into your own hands. Don't wait for someone else to fill your cup. 

Your cup is gonna run low sometimes. That's life. Pay attention to what makes you happy, what brings you peace, what leaves you feeling refreshed. Then do those things, because you care about yourself. 

You deserve a full cup. It's as simple as that. 

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Wednesday, March 13, 2019

Coffee Date: Four Cups In.

I would just like you to know that, in the spirit of authenticity, I just poured myself my fourth cup of coffee while writing this. So we really are having a coffee date. 

If we were having coffee, I'd tell you...

...I got new bedding and it has changed my LIFEEE. Maybe a little dramatic, but it's so cozy and comfortable and makes me happy whenever I look at it, which feels life changing. I got this duvet on Amazon (which totally looks like something you'd buy at Anthropology, except it was only $70 instead of $700) and then found sheets and pillows at Home Goods. I'm obsessed. 

...I'm falling more and more in love with Poshmark. I'm having so much fun thrifting and hunting for the things I think will sell best, and I'm SUPER having fun making extra money (I mean, not real fun, more like adult fun, AKA I'm paying off my credit card. FUN!)

...The warm weather is back and it is glorious. A little sunshine on my skin does wonders for my mood. 
...Last week on Instagram, I asked for people to tell me the best book they've read recently. I added all the suggestions to my library wish list, no questions asked. So I currently have a bag full of books I know nothing about and I'm so dang excited to dig in. 

...I had the slowest Sunday morning and it was so refreshing. I did a hair mask, a face mask, a foot mask (mask QUEEN over here) and drank coffee and watched a church service online in my pajamas. Taking a morning to slow down, not rush around, and just do things for myself made me feel so full, and I'm definitely going to try to do more of that. 

Wishing you a Wednesday full of strong coffee and lots of joy. xoxo
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Monday, March 11, 2019

The Middle of The Storm.


I've been thinking / reading / listening to a lot about storms lately. How they shape us, how they strengthen us. How they spit us out on the other side as warriors capable of way more than we thought we were. I love when people share their stories about their own life storms, about how what tried to destroy them failed, about all the good things that came from it. 

But here's the thing about storms. 

They hurt. 

Like, a lot. 

So I just want to say, if you're in the middle of your storm...if you haven't come out victorious, haven't had the epic rising-from-the-ashes moment yet, if you're still in the middle of the part that hurts...I see you, and I'm sorry. 

Yes, believe you're gonna make it. I know you're gonna make it. But I also know that right now, it hurts like hell. It's dark and uncomfortable and unfair and seeming never, ever ending. It's okay to acknowledge that. It's good to acknowledge that. 

So hey. If this Monday finds you in a storm of your own, I'm sorry. Storms suck. I've had a few of my own recently, and I can join you in saying, they SUCK. 

You're totally gonna make it. You're already way stronger than you know. The stories you're reading and hearing about people making it to the other side, that's gonna be you. 

But MAN, it sucks along the way. And it's okay to feel that way. 

Sending you all the love and solidarity today. xoxo

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Friday, March 8, 2019

Books I Read in February (And Whether or Not You Should Read Them).

An Anonymous Girl by Greer Hendricks and Sarah Pekkanen 

Plot: Seeking women ages 18–32 to participate in a study on ethics and morality. Generous compensation. Anonymity guaranteed.

When Jessica Farris signs up for a psychology study conducted by the mysterious Dr. Shields, she thinks all she’ll have to do is answer a few questions, collect her money, and leave.

Question #1: Could you tell a lie without feeling guilt?

But as the questions grow more and more intense and invasive and the sessions become outings where Jess is told what to wear and how to act, she begins to feel as though Dr. Shields may know what she’s thinking… and what she’s hiding.

Question #2: Have you ever deeply hurt someone you care about?

As Jess’s paranoia grows, it becomes clear that she can no longer trust what in her life is real, and what is one of Dr. Shields’ manipulative experiments. Caught in a web of deceit and jealousy, Jess quickly learns that some obsessions can be deadly.

Question #3: Should a punishment always fit the crime?

From the authors of the blockbuster bestseller The Wife Between Us comes an electrifying new novel about doubt, passion, and just how much you can trust someone.


Favorite quote: “Every lifetime contains pivot points—sometimes flukes of destiny, sometimes seemingly preordained—that shape and eventually cement one’s path. These moments, as unique to each individual as strands of DNA, can at their best cause the sensation of a catapult into the shimmer of stars. At the opposite extreme, they can feel like a descent into quicksand.” 

My thoughts: OH MY GOSH THIS WAS SO GOOD. It's the same people who wrote The Wife Between Us, and I'm going to say I liked this one even better! It was twisty and unique and truly left me guessing until the end. Five stars!

Should you read it? YESSSSSS!

All of This is True by Lygia Day Penaflor

Plot: "Miri Tan loved the book Undertow like it was a living being. So when she and her friends went to a book signing to meet the author, Fatima Ro, they concocted a plan to get close to her, even if her friends won’t admit it now. As for Jonah, well—Miri knows none of that was Fatima’s fault.

Soleil Johnston wanted to be a writer herself one day. When she and her friends started hanging out with her favorite author, Fatima Ro, she couldn’t believe their luck—especially when Jonah Nicholls started hanging out with them, too. Now, looking back, Soleil can’t believe she let Fatima manipulate her and Jonah like that. She can’t believe that she got used for a book.

Penny Panzarella was more than the materialistic party girl everyone at the Graham School thought she was. She desperately wanted Fatima Ro to see that, and she saw her chance when Fatima asked the girls to be transparent with her. If only she’d known what would happen when Fatima learned Jonah’s secret. If only she’d known that the line between fiction and truth was more complicated than any of them imagined. . ."

My thoughts: I started this, got bored, and put it down like four times. But once I got more than a few pages into it, I finished it all in the same day. 
It's highly unbelievable for a YA book (which I don't mind, I know I'm reading fiction). It's also a super unique way to write a novel...Four girls are being interviewed for a podcast, and the story is told in their alternate perspectives via the interviews. You're also reading chapters of a book within a book, and you know something bad has happened because of this book, so it's a fun way of trying to solve the mystery. I enjoyed it, it just took me a few tries to get into. 

Should you read it? I think so!

It's Not Supposed to be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered by Lysa Terkeurst
Plot: What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, His lack of intervention hurtful, and His promises doubtful? 

Life often looks so very different than we hoped or expected. Some events may simply catch us off guard for a moment, but others shatter us completely. We feel disappointed and disillusioned, and we quietly start to wonder about the reality of God’s goodness.

Lysa TerKeurst understands this deeply. But she's also discovered that our disappointments can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God. In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa invites us into her own journey of faith and, with grit, vulnerability, and honest humor, helps us to:

* Stop being pulled into the anxiety of disappointment by discovering how to better process unmet expectations and other painful situations.
* Train ourselves to recognize the three strategies of the enemy so we can stand strong and persevere through unsettling relationships and uncertain outcomes.
* Discover the secret of being steadfast and not panicking when God actually does give us more than we can handle.

Favorite quote: “Sometimes to get your life back, you have to face the death of what you thought your life would look like.” 

My thoughts: Good grief, I cannot imagine having the strength to not only publicly walk through what she had to walk through, but to write a whole book about it, putting herself on display for everyone to read and judge. BUT I AM SO GLAD SHE DID. 
I read this book at exactly the right time, and I listened to it on Audible, where she narrates it. I often felt like I was sitting with a friend who was just telling me her story, saying "hey, if I can do it, you can do it!" It was so beautiful. 

Should you read it? If you like hearing people's stories of rising up from the ashes, or if you're going through something hard yourself, yes.

What have you been reading?
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Wednesday, March 6, 2019

Good Morning, I've Got Some Thoughts.


Good morning! I've got some thoughts that have been swirling around since yesterday. I started to talk about them on insta stories, but it got way too long. So instead I've brought them here, where I can angrily passionately bang them out on a keyboard, which is my natural habitat anyway. 

This is what I've been thinking about: There are a lot of things we should do that are hard. We should eat healthy and exercise, but that can be hard (because we live in a world where pizza and Netflix are a thing). We should always keep our word, but that can be hard because things come up and life gets in the way. We should be nice to everyone, but that can be hard because sometimes people are idiots. 

Not being mean? THAT'S NOT HARD. 

I've seen a lot of mean things this week. Personal things from people I know, but I've also seen a lot of people sharing / reposting / retweeting mean things. I get that it feels easier, and less mean, maybe, to share something you didn't actually say yourself, but man, I don't like what that says about us. 

Two things. 

One: I don't care if you didn't write it, if you share an article full of making fun of someone and being mean about someone, YOU ARE BEING MEAN. If you forward an email or text full of meanness, even meanness you didn't originally write, YOU ARE BEING MEAN. 

Two: It's not freakin' hard to not be mean. Don't share the mean thing on facebook. Don't retweet the mean tweet about the person you've never even met. Don't forward mean things to other people. That's. Not. Hard. 

If you don't like someone, don't hang out with them! Don't agree with someone's theology? Don't buy their books! Don't like a certain blogger? Don't follow them! But being mean just for the sake of doing it? Gross. Don't do that. 

Life is entirely too short to be mean. It doesn't bring you anything good. It doesn't bring the world anything good. 

Don't be mean. It's easy! The end. 

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Monday, March 4, 2019

What February Taught Me.


That it's up to me to fill my cup. || I feel like we have the tendency to run around doing everything for everyone, pouring ourselves out at our jobs, for our friends, for our family, and then wonder why we feel empty. Well, boo, it's because you are. February really showed me how important it is to focus on filling my cup. It makes all the difference in the world. 

I also learned some very specific things that fill my cup. || Being in the sunshine, spending time with friends, reading, waking up to a clean house. I drove to Jacksonville twice last month just to spend the day eating tacos and laughing with one of my best friends because I knew I was running on empty and I knew that would do the trick. Learn what fills your cup and do not apologize for taking the time to do it. 

That taking a break and reading a book is sometimes just as productive as a day full of errands || Sometimes I feel pressure (literally just from myself) to run around and get all the things done on my day off. Two weeks ago, though, I spent my Friday laying by the pool and read an entire book. SO WORTH IT. I felt like I'd been at a spa and slept for seven days. 

That there is nothing, nothing that you cannot overcome. || I've been pretty open about how the last few months have been full of some rough stuff for my family, and there were several days in February that I caught myself thinking, "Holy crap, I'm making it?? We're actually all making it?!" 

I wish I could sit down with you and pour my heart out about this for hours over coffee, but in short, let me just say this: There is NOTHING you cannot overcome. You are stronger than you could possibly imagine, and big or small, you will get through what life throws at you. 

What did February teach you?

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Monday, February 25, 2019

My Favorite Things I Discovered This Month: February 2019.

Vita body blur. || This is expensive, but it's probably going to last me my whole life, because a little goes a looooong way, and it's definitely not an everyday thing. Unless, of course, you go out on the town every day and wanna be glam, in which case, you go, Dolly Parton! Every day for you! It's basically a bronzer/concealer/spray tan all in one that washes off. I bought this on a whim (AKA, I was having a bad day that spiraled into a treat yo'self moment and saw Becca Tilley post about this) and I'm so glad I did! It makes my legs look like 15% as good as a Victoria Secret model's legs, and really, isn't that all anyone can ask for?

Target cleaners. ||  Target has these new cleaners that are branded "Smells like...." and are also ONLY $1.59. "Smells like a citrus grove" is my favorite one, and it makes my house smell SO GOOOOOD. Side note: Is this what being an adult is? Being excited about cheap house cleaning products? Bless. 

Zit patches. || Non-gross description: These are magic and if you ever break out, you need them. More detailed, kinda gross description: You know how when you start to get a zit, but it's not ready to come to the surface? So you either A) Have the patience of a monk and chill out for a few days with a mountain on your face, just dreading what's coming, or B) Are me, and try to pop it anyway, ending up with a bloody mess that looks way worse that the zit (that's still coming, by the way) would've looked had you just waited. These take care of that.
 
I don't know how they work, but if you're starting to get a pimple, you put the little sticker on before you go to bed (or during the day, doesn't matter) and roughly 8 hours later, all the gunky stuff that was under the surface was brought to the top and is now stuck to the sticker. See? Magic. 

Lemon and mint tea. || Lauryn Evarts from The Skinny Confidential is always posting lemon and mint tea in her instagram stories, so I decided to try it. Oh my gosh, it's so nice! Just some lemon and fresh mint leaves in a cup of hot water. It's supposedly really good for bloat and detoxing, but also it's just delicious and refreshing. I've been making it every morning this month and I love it!

What did you discover this month?
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Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Some People Do Not Deserve a Seat at Your Table.


I've been thinking about this a lot lately. One of my favorite quotes is, "When you have more than you need, build a bigger table, not a higher fencer." I love that and I think it's so true. HOWEVER. In the same way I believe that, I also believe that not everyone gets a spot at your table. 

Your life is yours. Sure, you work for other people and live with other people and probably take care of other people. But at the end of the day, your life is yours, and who you share it with is entirely up to you. You're in charge of who gets to sit down at your table and eat. And while I believe in love and kindness and open arms, I also believe in protecting the preciousness that is your life. 

Growing up, when it came to bad friends, my mom was constantly quoting the Proverb to me, "Do not cast your pearls before swine." Meaning, if you put expensive and beautiful jewels down in front of pigs, they're not going to appreciate them, and they're probably going to get them filthy. Same goes for your life - there are some people who aren't going to appreciate it.While I kind of understood the thought behind that then, it's something I truly understand in my adult life. Just like pigs don't deserve pearls, there are some people who just don't deserve a front row seat to your life. 

The friend that makes you feel bad about yourself? She doesn't deserve a seat at your table. 

The girl you follow online who constantly makes you feel like you are not enough? Your table is not for her. 

The toxic person in your life who hurts you? He can go now.

The coworker who you have to see at work, but is always talking down to you and making you feel less than? They are uninvited from your table. 

The guy who ghosted you? NO SEAT FOR HIM. 

Guys, you don't have to do it. You don't have to share your life with everyone. You don't have to live a draining life just to please others.   

And let's be honest, that's what it does. It drains you. Having too many people at your table drains you. Trying to entertain and please and pacify people who have no business being up close and personal in your life drains you. Your life is worth so much more than that. You are worth so much more than that! 

Yes, we should be loving. Yes, we should be kind. Yes, we should be inclusive and open to others. HOWEVER. When someone shows you who they are...when they show you what their intentions are, when they show you how they plan on treating you...believe them. 

Your table? It's amazing. Those chairs at your table? VIP SEATING, BABY. Fill them wisely. 
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Thursday, February 14, 2019

Happy Valentine's Day to The Current Loves of My Life.


On this day of love, I thought it would be nice to hand out some Valentine's Day accolades to the true, always there, need them forever, loves of my life. 

Happy Valentine's Day, TJ Maxx. Thank you for letting me get to experience things way too expensive for my budget. I don't know how this stuff ends up in your store, but I'm not asking any questions. You just keep it coming. 

Roses are red, coffee, I love you. I couldn't survive without you, and I'm not being sweet, I'm being literal. You get me through the day like no one else can. YOU MY BOO. 

Be my Valentine, Chick-Fil-A. Your well done fries will always be the love of my life. 

Happy V day, Amazon Prime. Thank you for understanding that I am both a procrastinator and a person of little patience. You don't care that I waited until the last minute to get an outfit for the weekend. You don't care that I need it in two days. You've got my back. 

Happy Valentine's Day, Target. Thank you for being a space where I can run to the store "real quick" to get milk, but actually leave with seven new bikinis and some throw pillows. 

What current loves of your life are getting valentines this year?




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Monday, February 11, 2019

Good Morning, You.


Just wanted to say good morning, you. 

You, who had a hellish week last week: Good morning. It's a new week, and my fingers are crossed with you that this week will be so much better. You're a champion for walking through last week. Look at all you survived! You may not see it yet, but it made you stronger. I'm so proud of you. 

You, who is overwhelmed by everything going on in your life right now: Good morning. Take a deep breath. You've got this. Wanna know how I know you've got this? Because you've made it this far! All those things on your plate, all the people and circumstances fighting for your attention, all the items on your to-do list that make your feel like you are absolutely going to drown today...they won't be the end of you. You'll be okay. Slow down a little today, wherever you can. Take a walk, turn your phone on do not disturb, drink a cup of coffee. Five minutes can make all the difference. Take care of yourself today. I promise, the things you don't get done aren't going to be the end of the world. 

You, who feels stuck. Who thought your life would look so different than it does. Who feels disappointed in yourself. Good morning. You are alive, you are here, and that is amazing. Stop comparing yourself and your journey to other people and their journey. You may not have reached your goals yet, but if you're working on them, then that's what matters. Progress, not perfection. Keep going. 

You, who is carrying the heaviest burdens. Who doesn't get to leave the hell in last week, because you're walking through it as we speak. Good morning. I'm so sorry. My heart hurts for you. I want to remind you that joy and sorrow can coexist. That you're allowed to feel happiness, and that it doesn't take away from the hurt of what you are going through. I also want to tell you that I fully believe you're going to make it through this, that you're going to get to the other side, but that in no way takes away from how much it sucks right now. 

Good morning. You've got this. 

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Friday, February 8, 2019

February Coffee Date.

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First things first, we'd be drinking this coffee. I will forever be indebted to Kait for telling me about this. Also, I tried it this week with a little bit of cinnamon sprinkled in, and holy delicious, batman. 

Anyway, while we were drinking this magical coffee, we'd chat about all the things, obviously. 

I'd tell you that we finally got a few sunny days here this week, and if you for one second think I didn't haul my entire life to the backyard to soak up every single bit of sun, you do not know me. 

I'd ask you if you did anything fun for the Super Bowl, and by that, I would clearly be asking if you ate anything delicious. I'd ask which commercial was your favorite, and tell you that I always love the Monday after the Super Bowl because of the "best of" commercial videos. 

I'd tell you I'm going to the Walker Hayes concert tonight! I'm SO excited. I adore him as a songwriter, and can't wait to see him live!

I would also tell you that, for whatever reason, I had a very specific idea of what I wanted to wear to the concert. I wanted to wear cutoffs (gotta show off this new tan while it lasts), a faded, vintage-looking barbie graphic tee (I have no idea why this was what was in my head), and white cowboy boots. I could picture it all and it looked like the perfect concert outfit. So naturally, I couldn't find it anywhere. I ended up getting these white booties (which are adorable and I know I'll wear them a ton), and a few graphic tees on Amazon. I love prime because 1) My options were delivered in 48 hours, and 2) I can send back the ones I didn't love. I ordered this one (funny + true), this one (yellow happiness, my fave), and this one (which makes me look way cooler than I am). I'm wearing the yellow one with cutoffs and the white booties tonight. It's not the Barbie one I envisioned, but she'll do. 

I would ask if you were following me on Facebook. After some brainstorming this week, I'm going to start doing a lot more over there (like some live coffee dates, maybe?). If you blog and have a facebook page, leave it in the comments so I can give you a follow...babes supporting babes, am I right? 

Happy Friday! Thanks for hanging out with me. Have the best weekend ever ever! 
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Thursday, February 7, 2019

Looking Forward.


Last year, I was talking to my dad in the middle of a BAD month. It felt like the world was falling apart and nothing was going right and I couldn't catch a break. He had a lot of good advice, but the simplest thing he said is something I've held onto and used ever since. 

Find something to look forward to. Think about that and how good it will be, and all of the sudden, your day won't seem as hard. 

He's right! Now, every week, whether it's a bad week or I'm having the best week ever, I think about all the things I'm looking forward to. And seriously, it's an instant mood booster. Not to mention a really fast way to see all you have to be thankful for. 

So, a few things I am currently looking forward to. . .

Going to see Walker Hayes tomorrow night. He's one of my favorites! First concert of the year, and I'm so excited. 

S U M M E R. I love fall. I love Christmas. But summer has my whole heart. Pool days and watermelon and the ocean and cutoffs and bikinis...be still my heart. 

More days at Universal. The older Jack gets, the more fun it is to take him to Universal.  

Beach days. Hopefully lots of them.

Getting Jack new clothes. I noticed this week that Jack is growing out of most of his clothes, and I'm so excited to get him new stuff. Toddler clothes are the cutest thing in the whole world. I bought him a bunch of new stuff last summer and it made me entirely too happy. 

The library books waiting on me to read them. My passenger seat is currently full of about ten library books that I'm so excited to dig into.

The sushi I'm going to eat on Saturday. I've been craving sushi all week, and Saturday is my day. Is there anything better than satisfying a food craving? 

More walks. Jack & I went on a walk with our neighbors the other night and it was SO nice. It'll start staying light later and that means more evening walks and sunset walks. 

Tell me something you're looking forward to right now, big or small. 
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Monday, February 4, 2019

If I Could Tell You Anything Today.


If I could tell you anything today...

...I'd tell you that your story matters. I read a book this summer that changed my entire outlook on (and I believe the whole trajectory of, honestly) my life in one chapter, because the author shared a part of her story. That may sound dramatic, but it's not. I think about that so often, about how someone was raw and honest and put a vulnerable part of their story out into the world where anyone could read and judge it. And how I, a stranger, have a better life because of it. Our stories matter in ways we can't possibly know. 

...I would also tell you that it's entirely up to you how you share your story. You, by no means, have to go around broadcasting anything about your life. You can share your story one on one. You can share it by the way you live, but the way you treat others. You can share your story in so many ways other than relaying it with detail-filled words. 

...I'd tell you to make time for the things that fill your cup. I've been thinking about this so much lately, and paying extra attention to what fills my cup. I've been so exhausted the last few months, and while a lot of that is just life (hi, I have a three year old who never gets tired), a lot of it was coming from the overwhelming amount of things in my life that were sucking me dry. They weren't exactly bad things, but they weren't filling my cup. 

So I started saying no to things. A lot of things. If someone wanted to meet for dinner, but I knew it'd be a draining night on top of an already draining week, I said no. If someone tried engaging in a debate over something stupid on social media, I said no. If I felt like things that weren't on my most basic responsibilities list were going to suck the life out of me, I. Said. No. 

I also started saying yes to things. A lot of things. I drove to Jacksonville and spent the day running around with my sweetest friend, Kristen (who took this picture with all that gorgeous light). While on the surface that might look like something that would make me more tired, it was full of so much joy that it filled my cup. I'm going to a concert Friday night, because dancing around to live music fills my cup. Saturday, I spent the entire afternoon reading. Dishes piled up and the house looked awful, but I felt so refreshed. Sunday, I spent the whole day cleaning, because starting the week with a clean house makes me feel peaceful, and peace fills my cup. 

So I'd tell you, whatever fills your cup, pay attention to that. Pay attention to what drains you. Adjust accordingly, as much as you can. 

...I'd tell you that I'm cheering you on today. That whatever your week has, big or small, you've totally got this. Happy Monday!


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Friday, February 1, 2019

Spending February: A To-Do List For Adventuring Through Your Month.


HAPPY FEBRUARY! After approximately 284,402 days in January, we have a fresh new month! 

My goal this year is to spend my time. I hope you join me in that this month! We get 28 days that we get to decide how to spend. Of course, I've got some suggestions: 

  • Practice gratitude. This month, make a list (in your head or on your phone or in a notebook) of 5 little things from that day you were thankful for. 

  • Have a movie night. It's freezing, get cozy. 

  • Get yourself a robe. See above. IT IS COZY SEASON.

  • Meditate. Just try it! 

  • Try a new coffee or tea. I think hot drinks are the easiest way to treat yo'self this time of year. I just ordered this coconut coffee on the recommendation of Kait, and it's the most delicious afternoon treat. 

  • Make time to watch at least one sunset a week.

  • Plan lunch with a friend. Takes effort, yes. But it's worth it. 

  • Mail out Valentine's Day cards. 

  • Make chocolate covered somethings. Strawberries? Chips? Up to you. Get crazy. Blame Cupid. 

  • Make a list of books you want to read/keep hearing about. Then get on the waitlist for them at the library! 

  • Make breakfast for dinner. I made these twice last week. So delicious! 

  • Have a "no Netflix" night. Read a book instead. See if you sleep better. 

  • Celebrate Galentine's Day. Make our girl Leslie Knope PROUD.

  • Celebrate Valentine's Day. 

  • Go thrifting. Thanks to the whole Marie Kondo movement, the thrift stores are on fire. 

  • Start planning a summer trip. If this polar vortex has you feeling down, start planning a visit to somewhere tropical! 


  • Send a thank you card/email/text.

  • Make a list of all the tacos in your town. Seriously, all of them. Make 2019 the year of sampling tacos and finding the very best one. 

  • Make something with your hands. Cook a meal or make a craft or build a bookshelf. It's satisfying to make something tangible with your own two hands.

  • Make homemade muffins. 

  • Get some house shoes or fuzzy socks. Again, COZY SEASON.

How will you be spending your February?
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Wednesday, January 30, 2019

Lifelong Resolutions We Should All Have.


As of tomorrow, the first month of 2019 will come to an end. I hope it has been SO good to you. I hope you've stayed on track with any resolutions you've had. If, like me, you decided this year was less about resolutions and more about just living, I hope you've survived AND thrived. But if you haven't, and you've failed on all fronts, IT. IS. OKAY. 

January does not dictate your whole year. 2019 has plenty more days to be so good for you. You've got hundreds of chances left to be a champion. You've got this. 

Also, a personal opinion: Lifelong resolutions are way better than yearly resolutions. Here are a few I think we should all have: 

Show more kindness. || It takes SO LITTLE to be kind. It makes such a big difference - both to you and to those you're showing kindness to. 

Stop assuming others' motives. || If you're an anxious person, listen to me: Stop assuming the motives of other people. Stop assigning reasons to why they didn't text you back. Stop saddling them with opinions they've never told you being the reason they couldn't meet you for coffee. Stop assuming that the actions of others are motivated by you. If you are anything like me, this is so hard. But it's worth trying! 

Try to see others' points of view. || I'm gonna be open here: This is new for me. I hate confrontation, so when I have a complete opposite point of view as someone else, I tend to just not talk about it. Why rock the boat, you know? But that's dumb. Even if you disagree on deep things, it helps to put yourself in others' shoes and try to see where they're coming from and why they may feel that way. It doesn't mean you're changing your views, it means you're being a more empathetic human being. 

Drink more water. || Just do it. It fixes basically everything. 

Love hard. || Love is the most beautiful thing we have. But love can also hurt. Romantic love, friend love, family love...loving hard and full opens yourself up in a way that leaves you vulnerable. It brings your heart to the surface where it is more easily injured. And after a few of those injuries-be it from a romantic partner or a friendship ending or a family tragedy-the instinct to love from a distance, to love with arms crossed, to love only on a surface level can kick in. Don't give in. Life is short. Love hard. It hurts sometimes, but the good outweighs the bad, I promise. 

Live abundantly. || I've been thinking so much about this. There's a verse in the Bible that says Jesus came so that we would have not only life, but abundant life. Even if we have different faiths, I think abundant life is something we should all strive for. What fills you up? What is it that, when you do it, you think, "this! this is what it's about!" What makes your life feel the most abundant? More of that.

Stop breaking promises to yourself. || Look, I don't mean the way that on Friday, you swore you'd clean out the laundry room over the weekend, but then you got sucked in to a really good book and read all weekend instead. I'm talking about promises like, I will take better care of myself. I will stand up for myself. I will stop letting people walk all over me. I will make time for the things I love. Those promises. They're important, don't break them. 

Make room for the things you love. || I like to think of this in terms of weekends. If you've worked all week, what's your ideal weekend? Time with your people? Time alone? Projects? Books? Movies? Parties? We don't all have weekends off, but we do all get little pockets of time here and there that we get to choose how to fill. Whatever your "weekends" are, how to you want to fill those?

What's a lifelong resolution you have?
 
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Monday, January 28, 2019

Amazon Finds: Wins & Losses.

W I N N E R S :


Color Block Sweater || Hi, I love this. Got a small.

Sharkskin Gray Pullover || This is SO soft. It's thick and feels expensive. I had a nighttime flight a few weeks ago and wore this with leggings on the plane, and it was the perfect travel top. I got a small. It looks and fits exactly as it's pictured.

Kimono Coverup || SO DANG CUTE. I haven't gotten a chance to wear this to the pool yet (thanks, winter), but I foresee it being heavy in the rotation this summer. Looks exactly like the picture! 

Self Tie Top || I got a medium because I wanted it a little longer, but I wish I would've gotten a small. I plan on buying more colors, so I'll report back how the small fits. Looks exactly like the picture, but runs a little big.


Color Block Jumper Sweater || LOVE this. Got a small. 

Summer Striped Dress || Maybe my favorite thing of this round...it's SO cute! I can't believe it was so cheap. I plan on wearing it all summer long. I got a small and it fits perfectly. Looks and fits exactly as pictured. 

Oversized Batwing Top || One of those basic tops that works with everything...leggings, jeans, shorts. It's super comfortable and I love the color. I got a small.

Shaggy Faux Fur Jacket || Also known as the newest love of my life. Wanna be super fancy for cheap? Here you go. It looks exactly like it does online, but it runs small. I got a small and it was super narrow in the shoulders. Size up. 


Over The Knee Socks || We all know I love my over the knee boots, and I wanted some socks to go with them. These are PERFECT. I love the look of slouchy socks, but I hate how they fall down...these have elastic right above your knee, so the top can look slouchy, but they won't slip past your knees. 

And, because they can't all be perfect. . .

Losers:

Cotton Linen Dress || Looking at this picture, I laugh at myself for ordering this. But I follow someone on instagram and the dress looked so cute on them, I convinced myself that there was just an unflattering promo picture on the listing. NOPE. It's unflattering all the way around. Back to Amazon it went. 

Slouchy Sweater || This was SO CUTE, but it fell apart the first time I wore it. Like, a giant hole in the middle of my chest. Sad day.

Striped Romper || This was absolutely adorable, but it was way too big. In other words, it was made for someone with giant boobs, so I'm out. Returned!

What have you bought on Amazon recently? And do I need it? 
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Friday, January 25, 2019

What January is Teaching Me.


"Your circle should want you to win. Your circle should clap the loudest when you have good news. If they don't, get a new circle." || Kristen shared this yesterday and hot dang, she's right. But I want to say something about this: We aren't all blessed with a great circle all the time. Two things: One, make sure you're being someone you'd want in your own circle. And two: No circle is better than a crappy circle. If you're circle has to be just you and your dog for a little bit, that's okay! And it's better than filling your life with people who aren't cheering you on. Value yourself enough to shrink your circle when you need to. 

A bad hour doesn't have to mean a bad day, a bad day doesn't have to mean a bad week, a bad week doesn't have to mean a bad month. || Things can (and usually will) get better. Don't mentally throw the whole month out over a bad day. 

Good childcare is worth every penny. || Jack's nanny is a freaking gem. He loves her, she loves him, I no longer feel like the worst when I pull out of the driveway, and I know he's safe the entire time I'm gone. This month especially, she's been a lifesaver. She costs a lot more than I was paying before her, but I am not exaggerating when I say I would eat PB&J every night before I let her go. If you have a kid, I know how stressful childcare can be...but trust me, people like that are out there! Keep trying!

I can never live up north. || It has been cold (I mean, Florida cold, but still - cold) and I HATE IT. Not that I was planning on jetting off to live somewhere cold anytime soon, but still, good to know. It ain't for me. 

There is a direct correlation in the media I consume and the way I feel. || I feel like this is pretty much a "duh" kind of thing, but I paid extra attention to it this month. The days I listened to empowering podcasts and positive music were much better days for me.

Time spent with people I love is always going to be my love language & always going to be worth any effort it takes. || Today, I'm hanging out with one of my best friends. In order to make this happen, we had to plan literal months in advance, she had to take the day off of work, and I have to pay someone to watch Jack. WORTH EVERY STINKIN' BIT. 

Two things I heard this month that really struck a chord with me:

"Givers have to set boundaries, because takers rarely will." -my friend Joey

"Just a reminder that Mary Oliver's answer to her question, "What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" was to stroll idly through fields noting things. The question out of context could appear to be about achieving more - it's not." -Jessica Faith Kantrowitz

What is January teaching you? 




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Wednesday, January 23, 2019

My Favorite Things I Discovered in January.


This robe. || My mom got me this Kate Spade robe for Christmas and it is, quite honestly, the new love of my life.

Simple Habit app. || While this isn't a January discovery, I used this almost daily in January. It's been so helpful to me, and if you struggle with quieting your mind, I highly recommend it. 

This pitcher with a strainer. || If you love infusing your water with fruit and herbs but don't like getting the occasional chunk of mint or lemon when you're drinking it, this is for you. It's the cutest little glass jar (that makes me feel so fancy) and the lid has a built in strainer. So put whatever you want in the jar, but only liquid is coming out. It's so good!

Skincare fridge. || I got a tiny pink fridge to start keeping my skincare stuff (and eye masks) in, and it's the most extra thing I've ever done. I LOVE IT. Just gonna level with you, this was 50% off when I got it. It's now listed at $72, which is a bummer, but here are some cheaper options: this one is $30 and this one is $37.

Impress nails. || You're going to think I'm crazy, but I have to tell you something: I'm a stick-on nails convert now. It sounds ridiculous, but I've been wearing $6 press on nails and they look better than my nails look when I get them dipped (or even gel). They last 5-7ish days, which is about how long anything else lasts on my nails. Grab some next time you're at Target and just give them a go. Depending on the style, some of them are a little off if you look toooo close, but hey, $6...I'll take it. 

Fabric shaver. || I got this for my Poshmark ventures and after seeing how new it makes clothes look, I immediately took it for a spin in my own closet. You know how you have some clothes that you've had for so long or have washed so many times, the fabric starts pilling up in little balls? This takes care of it for less that $10. 

Fabric steamer. || Also originally for Poshmark, this has changed my life. Whenever something is wrinkled, I toss it in the dryer. Which means if something I'm trying to avoid shrinking is wrinkled, I'm out of luck. NO MORE. This is magic. It also makes me feel like an adult who has her life together, which is an illusion I am super here for. 

What have you discovered this month?
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Tuesday, January 22, 2019

Good Morning!


Coming atcha live on this (FREEZING COLD) Tuesday morning. I've honestly found that when I'm feeling overwhelmed / under-inspired, live blogs always help me get back into the swing of things. I'm all for planning and outlining, but sometimes you just need to write in real time, you know? 

Anyway, a few little life things: 

Florida is broken. Yesterday I checked the weather and it was warmer in Colorado than it was in Florida. I am both very confused and also personally offended by this. 

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Jack turned three. My family (including my baby brother because he lives in Florida again!) met us at Universal to celebrate the birthday boy and it was just the best. My favorite place and favorite people. Full, full heart. 

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I've kind of been keeping a "more / less" tab going in my head. Instead of making resolutions this year, I chose to just spend the year as best as I could. In order to do that, I want more of certain things and less of others. More joy, less worrying. More sunsets, less TV. More yoga, less overthinking, etc, etc.  It's a great mental nudge to myself to think about how I spend my time. 

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I saw a quote the other day that said, "You are the longest relationship you will ever have in your life. Take care of it." And it really struck a chord with me. I think that means different things to different personality types, but to me, it means more being intentional about self-care, less negative thoughts, more breaks, less letting what other people think bother me. See? More and less. 

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The sun is coming up, it's a fresh start, it's going to be a wonderful day. Whatever is on deck for you today, I know you can do it. Hope your day is absolutely beautiful. xo.


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